OK, I'm resolved to not write a novel of a blog post this time. :)
Things are going swell. My wife and I still have emotionally charged discussions about this, but it's just because it's an important issue. We're not fighting or disagreeing. My wife is troubled because I broke her trust some along the way (no i've never done this before. yes i'll stop. it's just a thing i wanted to try. etc...) She understands that I believed some of that myself, and other things I just really wanted to be true.
She's told her sister and her best friend about it, and both have been supportive to us. After I figured things out, I quickly became ok with myself, and ok with being 'outed'. As soon as I knew I was transgendered and could admit it to myself, I was perfectly ok with everyone else knowing too. I feel really lucky that I know who I am, and I'm comfortable with it, and that my wife is there for me.